1. The difference between happy people and unhappy people is their level of gratitude.
If you observe anyone who is miserable, you will notice they are never satisfied and constantly blaming their history, luck or other people for their struggles. If you observe happy people, they are full of gratitude. Instead of focusing on what they don't have to achieve/attract love/move forward -- they choose to focus on solutions to create the life they want. Even when these people are triggered by a bad turn of events, after reacting with sadness/frustration/stress/anger -- they get back to their baseline of happiness in due time.
Studies show that you can actually rewire your brain for happiness by practicing gratitude on a daily basis. Gratitude is a choice. Happiness is an attitude. How you will live your days is a choice that is completely within your control.
2. You will have your heart broken, and you will survive.
You'd think that one would get better at handling heartaches with age. But they don't get any easier or less painful, do they? While the intensity of hurt can be just as potent, if not more, with each relationship that comes and goes, I have learned that we have an unbreakable spirit that enables us to get back up even after the most crushing of heart experiences.
When you're going through the pain of separation it can be difficult to imagine being happy again. But nobody can take away your baseline of joy and happiness. Even if you are knocked off your feet for a period of time, you do eventually get back to your equilibrium. If you're going through that dark stage where you feel stuck in suffering, try and remember this:
You will love again. You will be loved again.
3. You will lose your job, and eventually find a better fit.
Endings are just new beginnings in disguise. You may be uncomfortable with the uncertainty, but some of the best things in life are born from those times of being open to new opportunities.
4. People you love will hurt you and disappoint you. Try to look beyond their mistakes and understand their intentions.
I used to be black and white with friendships. A friend was either a BFF or a mere acquaintance; there wasn't much gray area in between. And if a friend hurt me or didn't encompass the values I did, I'd cut that friendship off. But I've learned that we all can act a little selfish, forget to consider the people we love, or take others for granted. And that's okay. People go through phases, people make mistakes -- that shouldn't discount a history of times your friend was there for you.
Sometimes a friendship just needs time to breathe before it can flow again. And that's okay, too.
5. One's nature does not change.
Our perspectives, our appearances, our disposition can constantly change. But our core nature generally does not. People learn survival mechanisms at a fairly young age -- and that way of being becomes reinforced and ingrained. When I asked a dear friend of mine why he chose to be in my life during my early twenties when I was so insecure and unstable, he responded, "I saw you for your essence. And that has always been a constant."
If you want to truly see someone, look past their words, their charm and their charisma. Look past their disposition and even their mistakes. Look past the presentation and you'll find their essence. Because while everything superficial can change, one's nature does not.
6. Be selective of who you share your heart and body with.
"We accept the love we think we deserve." From -- The Perks of Being a Wallflower
We harm our spirit when we go against the integrity of our own values.Get to know your safety boundaries and what you are willing and not willing to negotiate. One of the most important things you will ever do, is learn to sense when your sense of "comfort Zone" is being weakened by a person near you, many folks are numb to this most important feeling that can save your life from harm. Almost everyone gets warnings when they meet a dangerious person, but folks with low self esteam many times do not listen, never kid yourself in order to have a friend, lonelyness is better then having company with a preditor, if you can not accept being alone and loving your self, you may very well open to a preditor for companionship, preditors look for weakened lonely people, who by being shocked someone would want them, overlook the signs of a preditor because we are so thrilled to have a romantic suitor. Watch a persons culture closely, highly competitive bloodsports, gambling, sexual conquest, and "Oneman Upmanship" are danger signels for sure. As well many times we refuse to believe that someone who is good for us is just that. People who activlly love other's well, many times show great discipline and demand respect as they give it, in a time when we are down these very good people can be a turn off,
Its also very important as to how another treats us with eye contact too. Cold eyes most times mean a cold heart, read a persons eyes deeply, this will rarely fail you. Holding eye contact till its over bearing is as much a bad sign as someone who has a hard time keeping eye contact, in the case of the latter, a real telling sign are those snakes who pretend to keep eye contact but really are looking away and avoiding our close inspection.
Watch closely how new friends show respect for your private space or treat you as less then themselves to raise themselve up falsely, Remember, only a narcissus is always right. And remember also , just because something feels good in the present moment doesn't mean it's a healthy decision for your future. Preditors never admit to making past mystakes, but people who have forgiveness for others and themselves admit easily where they have gone wrong.
Most all mental dysorders are judged by the ability of that desease to "Disrupt Empathy Function" and weaken a persons ability to take care of others.
People who have no empathy are dangerious, and have through out all history done the most harm. Empathy is the magic that slows us down to think and holds all real communication together, makes us second guess precisily the needs of others and "impells us" to "do un to others, as we would be done by" and it thrives on beauty, rest, hard work, honesty, peace, quiet and most of all "Patience". Also when we know someone has empathy, we know they care even when they make mystakes and will change on their own with out a great amount of push from us. And Empathy is never vain, it does not have to exalt itself, as exaltation is the first defence and hiding place of a ruthless heart, many times using great beauty as a distraction from revealing a persons true coldness.
In short, to have empathy is to be as hurt by someones elses pain as much as if it was your pain and that keeps people honest, sensitive and caring.
Most all people pick the same type of "Role Playing Mate" with duplicate faults over and over and over again, ask your self with fearless honesty, is this new person as ruthless as the old person, unless a person has made a fearless change, 70 percent of the time most people have to anserw a defeatist yes, "I am with the same person only with a different name".
Ask the right hard questions so you don't keep making the same mistakes. What sort of relationship do you want to attract in your life? Is the decision you are making bringing you closer to that or steering you off that path into danger?
"By All Means Protect Your Heart, and your Heart will be healthy enough to protect you and your loved ones."
7. Your body is not invincible.
Unfortunately many of us wait until there is a health scare, and then react to fix it, instead of being proactive to avoid it. Your immune system is critical to identifying and destroying foreign and potentially cancerous cells. Stress, not eating, eating unhealthy food -- these can all be factors that contribute to weakening your immune system. And when it's weakened, those mutated cells are not recognized by your immune system. The bad cells are then nourished just like healthy cells, causing the cells to duplicate and potentially become cancerous cells.
Take care of your body. Even if you think you're invincible, consider that it is the people who love you that will suffer if something were to happen to your health. If you won't do it for yourself, do it for the people who care about you.
8. When it doesn't work out with someone in the present, it's because it's meant to work out with someone else in the future.
This applies to relationships and opportunities as well. We can get so caught up expecting a particular outcome, only to get overwhelmed by disappointment when things don't pan out the way we planned. During the moment, it may feel that life is out of sorts, but have faith that there is a bigger, better plan for you, and each person that touches your life is just preparing you for the person you're meant to be with.